Yeah it's not that I find him attractive or not, I mean physically yeah he isn't bad but I don't know him well enough and as Jay pointed out that's not the issue.

The issue is that I am not sure it's appropriate or conducive to good practice. True, there are people in all situations that you might find attractive. There's a guy I work with who I think is sweet and attractive but will I dwell on it or act on it? No way! Why? Because it is not appropriate!

SO yes I will explain to him what I have explained to you all. AM curiosu though, have other people had similar situations as students or teachers? I think it's particularly interesting in the yoga context.

cathyg - The weather's not so great where I am today (cold and cloudy with rain in the forecast) but I already went for a hike up the mountain earlier when it was nice and it's a work day for me (hence being online on a Saturday doing a bit of procrastinating). What're you doing here if the weather's great outside where you live? Or are you just telling me to go away because you're feeling unpleasant today and you're a bit envious of someone being cruised by their yoga teacher even if they're not finding it a particularly appealing or comfortable position to be in?

Clearly you don't have any greater insight or knowledge of the situation being discussed so I'm not sure why you're sure that your reading is correct. I'm not proposing my take on it is accurate, as I was clear about (hence giving you entry for snark apparently). I'm just sharing my take on it, just like you. The original poster can take or leave what she likes according to her take on her situation *shrug*

Jav - I'm not American and I'm speaking from personal experience with guys who don't respect boundaries or use positions of authority to try to impose their desires. I also have an even larger personal experience with guys who are people first and who don't do that kind of shit (and who actually like women, not the case with all men...the reverse is, of course, also true). I didn't say that this guy was being a creep, just that he seemed to be unclear on professional boundaries so being direct with him is the best way to clear up any confusion this had created that had led the OP to post about it here. I certainly didn't say "run like the wind". I pointed out the inherent unbalanced power dynamic between a teacher and student (this wasn't just some guy from her class) - that exists irrelevant of the gender of both parties (it would be just as lacking in integrity if it was a Gay male teacher hitting on a male student, it's not about gender but about the dynamics of power). Another poster shared her story about how a yoga teacher was creepy with her and then claimed she was projecting, I've heard women recount experiences like this (often they feel ashamed and responsible) and had some of my own. They're hardly life threatening but it can make people uncomfortable in yoga or with a teacher, and bring another relationship dynamic into class. Sometimes this can be negotiated with integrity - which generally means speaking openly about something not dancing around it - and for some people it can't and becomes a distraction not only to the teacher and student but also the class.

You're actually shoring up and agreeing with one of my points - so it appears you're having a knee jerk reaction to what you think I wrote not what I actually wrote. That point was that *some* men (I don't see all men as being the same, do you?) hit on women even though they have no interest in us as individual people - it's not because we're special but because they think they're special and women exists as objects to serve their desires with the woman's desire being irrelevant. Only really needy women think they're special cause some guy whistles at them or cruises them just because we have tits (those of us who value ourselves know we have tits and appreciate them, we're just interested in finding out if there's a deeper appreciation or someone is just looking to use us as an interchangeable body). None of this makes any women think they're special (and your response smacks a bit of men who get angry at women who say "no", as if we're not allowed to make choices based on our own desires).

All in all, I think the OP has a good take on her situation (and ultimately only her opinion matters vis a vis her situation and how she handles it). She asked for our opinions, we gave them. You can continue projecting "everything that's weird about the USA these days" onto me if you want but apparently it's getting in the way of actually reading what wrote (so much so that you corrected me by agreeing with one of my points! :-)

Hahaha! Cathy, if you lived in Bali I would definitely consider it, but I am originally from Portland so that would be treason.

....."Has a crush on me" is high school talk. Maybe in High School the teachers are not allowed to have sex with the students. There was a time, about 40 years ago when teachers were expected to be some kind of asexual moral example for the kids because in those days sex was dirty.
-----Only now, in the grownup world, par contre, men are permitted to like women, and women are allowed to like men. And if you like somebody, you are free to approach them for the sake of moving things closer. ...Or to move apart, if that's what you prefer. It's all a part of the cosmic nataraj dance.

.....By Margot's own account the man acted discretely and within boundaries in the classroom. What happens outside the classroom stays outside the classroom. What can be "innapropriate" about boy-meets-girl. boy asks girl out on a date? Are we trying to get this guy fired out of some kind of misguided attempt to rack up some points with the bitter sisters of the sexual revolution? (That is soooo l980s!). I would say that Margot ought to take the man's attentiveness as a compliment, rather than trying to turn it against him. What is the point of taking someone down or hurting them when they are doing good or acting naturally?

There is more to Yoga than running through some calesthenics.

Metta
briggi!

Yes the rumours are true, we are now happily married and teaching yoga in Nairobi.

Hehe

Actually we ended up becoming friends. However, he has told me straight up that he fancies me, but what to do? Basically try to build a platonic friendship without unintentionally (or intentionally) leading him on!